When Parents Join Facebook!

God, I remember the day like it was yesterday.

It was a Monday.
Just like any other Monday, really.

I was sitting at my desk, fielding through emails and phone calls as usual.
A notice popped up saying I had a new message in my personal inbox.
Wow…looking back, it feels like everything happened in slow motion after that…

I remember dragging the cursor to the open web browser. I remember the placement of the web browser window on my desktop. Not a full screen, and a little off to the right. I remember that the sun was shining and it was 72 degress. I remember that I was wearing a green “Ramones” shirt and I was smiling…
I was smiling.

Then I remember seeing in big black bold letters:
“Your father wants to be your friend on Facebook!”

How did this happen???

I stared at the email for a good five minutes. I was paralyzed. I couldn’t move.
I didn’t know what to do.
Do I befriend my father and risk him exposing the pseudo-literate/cultured facade I’ve worked so hard to create for my profile as the sham that it is? I can just picture it now…I get a note on my wall saying, “Lauren, dear, I’m looking at your profile pic, why are you reading Ulysses and dressed like Truman Capote? You don’t wear glasses OR smoke!” 
Or do I pretend like I never saw the email and when he asks, say something like, “Oh, you befriended me on Facebook? What is that, Pop? Never heard of it.” That would never work!

I realized I was going to have to accept that my father was now becoming internet savvy and it was just a matter of time before he caught wind of this Facebook. Shell-shocked for a week, I felt like I was just coming out of the woods when I then get a phone call from my mother.

“Hey Honey! I think I’m going to join this Facebook thingy. Can you help me?”

I slam my head against the desk.
“Mmkay Mmmom”, I mustered out through smooshed lips.
I felt like a lead weight, heavy with anxiety. My heart beating fast. 
Not her too!

“Are you okay with that?”


“Are you sure?”

“You don’t sound so sure.”


I breathe in deeply.
It’s ok, Lauren. It’s ok. Relax.
You will be able to handle this!

“Are you sure you want to join Facebook, Mom? I mean, it’s not easy to figure out.”

Then the Jewish guilt trick…
“Oh…ok. Sure, yeah, if you don’t want me to…”
“No, no, Mom. It’s ok. Of course I’ll help you.”
And I did. 
And I accepted my Dad’s friend request.
And I helped my Mom create her profile.
And I suggested friends for them.
And I pointed out when they would accidently write on their own wall instead of their friend’s.
And then I get an email from my 90 year-old Grandmother asking me to be Facebook friends.
It’s become a Facebook world and we all have to live in it.

*I should note that my parents have been divorced for 17 years and live in different states

**I have the best parents on the planet.

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  • Reply Andrew Ryz Rydzewski April 1, 2009 at 8:59 pm

    Dear Lauren’s parents,
    I would like to make sure you understand what Lauren is saying here. She loves you, of course, but she has created a persona that leads people (myself included) to believe that she’s cool. Once parents appear in the picture, it risks all that she’s worked so hard to create. After all, no one cool has parents (i have no evidence to support this). Just knowing that you exist has already made doubt her. I bet she’s not cool at all. I bet she’s… a square!
    No, wait. I think I had parents once. I remember them… and I’m cool… right? Right? Okay, hold the phone. Lauren having parents and being their friend on facebook actually MAKES her cool. She’s so confident in her cool that she’s friends with her parents on facebook! Lauren rocks! Good work, Modery family. I admire your technological family coolness.


    P.S.- I apologize for any and all inevitable inappropriate facebook wall postings.

  • Reply Lauren Modery April 1, 2009 at 9:15 pm

    Andy, I love you.

  • Reply Hannah Miet July 24, 2009 at 7:18 am

    Hilarious post.

    My mom asked me if she should start a Facebook.

    I said "Um. No."

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