Lately I’ve been getting a lot more negative comments. Some on my blog and some on my column at CultureMap.
I knew this day would come and I told myself not to let it bother me. I take it as a sign that my work is reaching a broader audience, but it does sting a little considering people use harsh and less constructive language when leaving negative comments.
I came across one today on Get Off My Internets where a follower complained that I’m “super obsessed with my boyfriend”, that I’m “trying so hard to be relatable that I’m coming across as lame”, that I’m “flipping out about turning 30” and that I “overblow my life events to get more traffic-y posts”. Below that comment another person suggested that I talked about my boyfriend too much as well.
Though all these words hurt a little, it made me stop and think.
Maybe I do talk about my boyfriend a lot. For the first time in my life, I’m happy and in love. It’s gross when people talk about relationships too much, I agree, but this is such a new feeling for me. My blog has always been a place where I express what I’m feeling and I’ve never wanted to censor that.
I am flipping out about turning 30. I’m scared shitless. I’m no longer the kid I think I am. I’m getting old. People I love are getting sick or dying. I’m feeling less and less invincible.
I talk a lot about my life events. I wish they were overblown; I have such a boring life!
If I don’t talk about these things, I guess I’m a little confused as to what I’m supposed to talk about then. If I take out life events, the people I love and my current state of being, then what do I have left? If you want me to talk more about Jeff Goldlbum’s penis, I will.
Anyhoo, I’d be interested to hear your feedback. Obviously I’m not going to change my blog based off of what a handful of people said, but I am curious as to see if the direction I’m going with my blog is turning people off as much as these two folks feel.
Be as honest as you’d like.